The following segment aired on “The Balancing Act”. Joining the show was Michelle Tingler and Debbie Devine to discuss bullying.
The Balancing Act: According to stompoutbullying.com, as many as a hundred and sixty thousand students stay home on any given day because they are afraid of being bullied, but staying home isn’t always a safe bet because, about forty-two percent of kids are bullied while on-line. The Balancing Act presents Michelle Tingler and Debbie Devine from Opinionated Mama to talk about this serious issue and what parents can do about it. Good morning, ladies.
Michelle Tingler: Nice to see you again.
The Balancing Act: Welcome back. I’m really glad we’re talking about this because it’s amazing to hear about this more and more every day. You ladies have a blogged called “Once a Bully, Always a Bully.” What brought on this topic, Michelle?
Michelle Tingler: Well, little bullies turn into big bullies and, as adults, we see bullies in our lives every day, too. In the media and in our workplace and that starts at a very young age and bullies just grow and become bolder over time. So we as parents and mothers need to nip it in the bud early.
The Balancing Act: Debbie?
Debbie Devine: It’s kind of a tough pill to swallow, but we actually did a poll on our site and ninety-five percent of our moms say that when they were children, they were either bullied or witnessed bullying or were bullies themselves, so, it’s in the forefront of everyone’s minds. It didn’t just spring up overnight. Because we’re so aware of it and we realize that it does start in the home and we have a little control over it we have to take responsibility for it and try and change the behavior.
The Balancing Act: When I look back in my childhood, I’d never experienced being bullied, however, I remember coming home and saying, “Mommy, she’s being mean.” There is a difference between a bully and a meanie, am I right?
Michelle Tingler: They’re both bad behaviors and we don’t make excuses for either one. However, there’s a difference. Meanies are just rude and bullies are dangerous. We have to know the difference and we have to teach our kids the difference because it’s also important to teach your kids to be resilient.
The Balancing Act: You gotta get thick skinned.
Michelle Tingler: You do, you do, absolutely, and we have to give our kids those tools so that they will not let all of those issues affect their lives day to day. They need to know the difference and we, as moms, need to realize that there is a difference and we need to intervene when bullies are involved.